“Forgive. If not for others then for yourself.”
I’m not sure who said this first but I think this is a message someone might always need to hear.
I’ll admit, sometimes I can hold a grudge. I even remember those cringe-worthy moments where I’ve made mistakes or when someone has wronged me. I wish I could take them back but I cannot.
Despite me telling myself that I’ve forgiven, I still haven’t forgotten. Not fully.
I’ve realized that it’s ok. As long as I don’t let the pain hold me back from the person I’m supposed to become or affect how I treat the other person. All those negative feelings don’t have a place in the world.
Instead I’m allowing myself to only revel in the pain for a few moments before moving on with my life. Better to let it out for a short period of time than to hold it in till it explodes.
There’s little to nothing we can do about the past. But if you can remedy it, go for it! It might help you let go. If not, move on because it’s likely they already have.
When someone wrongs you or speaks harsh words to you, try to give them a benefit of a doubt and try to communicate with them about how they made you feel. Perhaps they are misdirecting their feelings on to you and in those moments, we want to sympathize and try to understand first before jumping to conclusions.
Your life is built on a series of moments. Some beautiful and magnificent, others painful or full of regret. Don’t let your future be dictated by your past.
You have numerous wonderful moments ahead of you to let your past drag you down. Let it go and spread positivity and love.
True indeed